Another Ethical Delimma…
**** Below is a situation that happens in the lives of middle school students. Read through the whole piece, then reflect and answer the questions at the end. Take your time on this — don’t just immediately react. There are no right or wrong answers — try to be clear in your answers and provide justifications for what your write.
Mary is an eighth grader and, until recently, pretty popular at school. Lately, she started finding notes in her locker and in her backpack that were really upsetting. The notes were unsigned and mean. They said things like: “ We don’t like how you’re treading on our territory.” “ You act like a bitch.” And even, “ You better watch out because we’re watching you…”
Mary had no idea who might be sending the notes but she had an idea why. In the last few months she had started accepting invitations to high school parties. She had also fooled around with a couple of sophomore guys. She had a feeling that the notes were from some of the high school girls. She knew how gossip got around and how mean other people said the sophomore girls were.
What was she supposed to do? Almost every day this week she received a note. She felt angry, scared, and hurt. She showed the notes to two of her friends. One of them said that whoever is sending them was probably just jealous and she should just ignore them. The other friend said she should show them to a teacher.
Mary felt like there was no good choice. If she tried to ignore the notes she was afraid they would just continue, and she was not only scared, she was mad. She wanted them to stop. But if she turned in the notes, she was sure the whole school would find out and she would probably have to name names as to who she thought was sending them. If the gossip was bad now, wouldn’t’ it be worse then?
- What do you think Mary should do?
- Would you do the same thing?
- What do you think would happen to someone in your school who was in Mary’s situation? (I.e. would she get backlash for hooking up with older guys? Would people gossip about her?)
- How does gossip play a role in your school, in your community?
- Have you ever been in a situation similar to Mary’s? How was it resolved?
- Why do you think people gossip? Have you ever gossiped about someone? Why do you think you did?
First off, I think that she should tell her mom, teacher, etc. No one deserves to be put through that. I would someone because I know how much it hurts and I would be angry and would want someone there to help me. I don’t really know what would happen. Yeah, people would probably gossip about her but I don’t know if she would get backlashed… Gossip hurts and it can hurt people too. Gossip can make people commit suicide or even worse… Yes I have been in a situation like this. It really hurt too. When it happened to me, we moved out of my school but I still talked to people about it… I think people gossip because they are bored. They want some action. Yes, I have gossiped about someone and I regret it now because me and that person are very close friends now. I think I did it because I wanted to fit in, I was new to the school and I just wanted a friend.
September 27th, 2006 at 2:25 pm
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September 27th, 2006 at 2:28 pm
I agree with you that people should tell older poeple, such as teachers and parents…g2g..baibai
September 28th, 2006 at 2:02 pm
hey fawn~! sorry for not commenting properly esrlier..it was because class ended…so i ran out things to write…sorry…anyways…i totally totally totslly agree with you about the whole telling teacher or parent thing when something goes….wrong……g2g for now..so bai bai
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September 28th, 2006 at 2:28 pm
I agree to your opinion too. I never knew you gossiped about someone though…i’ve never started it, but iI’ve spread it even more once. I flt reall baad and guilty after doing that…>_